Trauma

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Recovery from Trauma

Following single event traumas such as an environmental disaster, a car accident, being a victim of crime, or birth trauma, a person is often left with questions about safety and control in their life. The range of stressors experienced after traumatic events are normal responses to an extraordinary event. Often the passage of time, combined with support from trusted family and/or friends can be sufficient to overcome the effects of a single event trauma and move on.

Sometimes people find it helpful to talk about what has happened to them and its emotional and psychological impact in counselling sessions. A person’s capacity to recover, however, may be complicated by a lack of access to a reliable support network, low resilience and capacity to draw on inner resources, and whether or not they have a history of unresolved past trauma. All of these things may exacerbate the impact of a single event trauma and can lead to the development of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and/or the re-triggering of past trauma in which case psychotherapy may be beneficial.

Repeated and prolonged trauma experienced in childhood and/or adulthood has a significant impact on a person’s feelings, thoughts, beliefs, how they perceive themself and the world, and on their ability to trust others and set healthy boundaries in relationships. Such trauma is often referred to as Complex Trauma. Complex trauma does not respect age, race, social class or sexual orientation. It also does not respect gender however it is important to emphasise research shows the vast majority of interpersonal trauma is gendered, with most perpetrators being male. It can be experienced alongside PTSD and may be a result of childhood abuse (sexual, physical, emotional) and/or childhood neglect, exposure to domestic and family violence (including coercive control), and war-related trauma (war veterans, refugees).

If you are struggling with the long-term effects of such trauma, you may find psychotherapy a useful way of addressing the same.

Childhood Trauma

Childhood trauma, however, isn’t only the result of being overtly abused. It can also be due to any of the following:

  • being left to “fend for yourself” when you needed safety and security
  • having your feelings invalidated and denied whenever you sought emotional support
  • being forced to “self-soothe” alone and find an escape from your painful reality
  • having to hide your “true self” because it wasn’t accepted by those you craved to be understood by
  • having your parents consistently prioritise themselves or their work over yourself
  • feeling like you have to compete or prove yourself to receive the love and attention you sought

These are often referred to as ‘mis-attunements’ and when they are repeated and prolonged they are referred to as attachment traumas. They can leave lasting imprints on behaviour patterns and how a person feels about themselves, and their ability to form safe and meaningful relationships.

If you have suffered any of these attachment traumas you may find the depth process of psychotherapy to be beneficial. Psychotherapy can foster self-understanding, and challenge the emotional and psychological burdens imposed either unintentionally or consciously by parents or other caregivers.

Trauma Survival Resources

Surviving trauma demands that a person develop survival resources. These may include substance abuse, self-harming behaviours, suicidal thoughts, dissociation/emotional numbing, avoidance of intimate relationships, hypervigilance, distraction and workaholism to name a few. Survival resources are cries for help and tend to become barriers to leading a fully satisfying life when they persist long after the danger is gone.

You might be aware of their links to past experiences but not know how to stop them now. Or they may occur in isolation and seem to have no connection with the past. Either way, psychotherapy may be a useful avenue to help you explore your past and develop greater self-understanding and self-compassion in regard to how you move through the world now, and into the future.

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